Experts agree that after a breakup, texting your ex should be avoided as this sends mixed signals that may convince them there’s hope, as well as opening old wounds and creating more pain for both of you.
But in certain instances, texting an ex can be appropriate if done for the right reasons. Below are a few questions to keep in mind before sending such texts:
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1. Do You Want To Get Back Together?
When trying to reunite with an ex, it is vital that you be honest with yourself. Otherwise, this could end up causing more emotional strain for both parties involved.
Be sure to allow sufficient time since the breakup for healing to take place before reaching out again; otherwise, texting them out of desperation could lead to unnecessary contact rather than genuine desire to reconnect.
At this stage, it’s also important to assess whether you and your former flame are truly compatible – this means looking beyond romantic interest alone and considering aspects such as lifestyle (healthy eating, sleeping habits), career/hobbies/values/goals etc. To truly meet compatibility, one should do something which enriches their life while at the same time contributing positively towards society and communities; doing this will allow them to remain focused on what really matters while keeping away from painful memories from previous relationships.
2. Are You Ready To Move On?
One common misperception people make when texting an ex is assuming that this will bring closure; this assumption is completely wrong as texting your ex won’t provide any sort of resolution and could even open old wounds again. Furthermore, texting may make you anxious and needy; an attitude which won’t help anyone move on from past relationships.
If you want to move on from your former relationship, the best thing you can do for yourself is focus on healing yourself and developing yourself personally. Once in a healthy place, then can determine if reaching out is necessary; otherwise it may only come across as desperate and push them away further – not worth the emotional torment or uncertainty!
3. Are You Sure You Want To Text Your Ex?
Texting an ex can sometimes be helpful, but be sure you’re doing it for the right reasons. Reaching out out of desperation or neediness likely won’t lead to fruitful conversations between yourself and them again.
If your goal in texting your ex is revenge, this might not be in your best interests either. Revenge may provide temporary satisfaction but will only create further discord and emotional turmoil in your life.
When texting an ex in order to achieve closure, it’s essential that you remember this is for you, not them. Texting them to make them jealous, manipulate their feelings for you or otherwise waste energy by increasing their feelings towards someone who already used you up will only drain YOU further while infusing an abusive person with energy that they could then misuse against YOU.
4. Are You Sure You Want To Text Your Ex?
There may be instances in which it would not make sense to text your ex at all, for example if they have specifically requested it or caused you considerable distress during your relationship; then it would likely be best not to initiate contact again and move on with life.
Consider whether or not texting your ex is out of desperation or neediness; in such instances it would be prudent to step back and assess the situation carefully prior to picking up the phone.
Texting an ex out of desperation can be risky, as it can create an emotional downward spiral and sap your energy reserves. Furthermore, doing this may give off the impression that you’re desperate for their attention or that you want them back – two feelings which could send shockwaves through both parties involved.
5. Are You Sure You Want To Text Your Ex?
Texting an ex out of desperation (to win them back) or because you miss them is usually not recommended; doing so could send mixed signals that could further hurt their feelings and possibly send mixed signals of your desire to reunite.
Reconnecting with an abusive partner after they’ve left can be dangerous; abusive dynamics often escalate further even after separation and can continue causing harm even afterwards.
There may be circumstances where texting your former flame is appropriate, such as when it relates to shared responsibilities or events. But before making that decision, be sure to consider if you can tolerate having just friends as your ex. If that answer is no, then continuing no contact is recommended.
6. Are You Sure You Want To Text Your Ex?
Texting an ex-partner out of neediness, desperation or the hope of winning them back should likely not be done out of desperation or to find comfort – neither are great reasons to text an old flame!
Even after your breakup has taken place for some time, the pain will still sting sometimes. Texting your ex in an attempt to wreak revenge could only add more heartache and frustration for both of you over time.
Be honest with yourself and know exactly why you wish to text an ex. If you don’t know exactly why or need the communication, it may be best not to engage further – give yourself enough space after a breakup to heal before engaging further in contact.
